As a content creator, I have a lot of people constantly telling me what to do. Whether it's friends, family, or most frequently random comments on YouTube from people.
Now not all of these are bad. But most definitely not all of these are good. From my perspective at least, I receive a lot of unsolicited advice on how to run my channel, what videos to make, and what tactics to do or not do when it comes to growing it.
Now I want to hedge here and say that I have ZERO PROBLEM with people giving ideas on what videos to make because that's really fun and engaging stuff. I also know that I very well may be doing this all wrong... but there is something to be said about research, hard work, and actually being "the man in the arena" when it comes to random advice on how I should advertise, grow my channel and do technical things around video.
I remember sitting with my family last month and they put on a speech by Brene Brown that resonated with them. Some key lines from this speech are as follows:
It's not the critic who counts. It's not the man who points out where the strong man stumbles or where the doer of good deeds could have done it better the credit belongs to the person who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred with blood and sweat and dust. Who at the best, in the end, knows the triumph of high achievement and who at worst if he fails he fails daring greatly.
This is pretty astounding stuff. It's not about winning, it's about showing up and being seen. To me, these words mean something pretty clear. There are people in your life that are going to give you advice who have no life context, research, or sound logic to back up the claims they make towards you. While this does not mean you should ignore all advice from those kinds of people, it is important that you do not feel guilty or have a negative emotion when those situations occur.
Because at the end of the day, if you are not going to be the one to "put your money where your mouth is" and have to be the one to deal with the repercussions, then understand that you are giving advice without being the one who has to take the blows of failure.
As Marcus Aurelius once said, “It’s time you realized that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that affect you and make you dance like a puppet.” Basically, the haters are going to hate and if you are doing things that are within your control to make your life better, focus on that and let the "advice" without risk wash over you.
I for one love each and every piece of advice or comment given to me as it all helps me get a better picture of what I'm doing here. And while this newsletter may have been a little targeted I'll drop one last stoic quote of wisdom to end things off.
"Just keep in mind: the more we value things outside our control, the less control we have." -Epictetus
Have an awesome week!
❤️ My Weekly Favorites
- 🎙️ Ali Abdaal on the Keys to Productivity and Re-Defining Success
- This interview was a great insight into Ali's thoughts while being interviewed by my favorite podcaster!
- 🎵 Mind Machine - Scar Symmetry
- I really used to listen to a lot of Swedish melodic death metal. Shoutout to this gem of a band.
✍️ Quote of the Week
"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be." - Ken Venturi