Before I dive into this, I want to let you know that this newsletter is a message to my younger self. I'm doing it as an exercise to show myself as well as you, how awesome it can be to talk to your younger self and it gives you a nice reference point of how much you've grown especially if you've really taken the time to improve yourself.
Dear 10-year-old Demetri,
Stop waking up at 10 AM. Okay. That's all for you.
Dear 16, 17, 18-year-old Demetri,
It's okay. That you're not popular because it doesn't really matter and won’t your entire life. You're going to be, focused on what people think of you for a while but you really shouldn’t be. At some point, you’ll get over it so don’t bother caring about it now because all of these random things that bother you mean nothing in the grand scheme of things.
Don't pay any mind to people being rude and instead make self-deprecating humor about yourself that's not serious whatsoever. Be stoic to the random insults that high schoolers give you because they are jacked with hormones and don't know how to address social interactions properly.
Also don't get so obsessed about getting a personal best in every track race. Don't get mad that you win a race and you don't have a personal best dude. Be happy with giving it your all because that's the only positive thing you can take out of anything. If you did give an honest effort and something happened where your body didn't do well on the day then that’s okay.
Dear early college, Demetri,
I think you need to talk to people more. You need to get out of that room and address things, with yourself from a mental standpoint and say it's time to change.
I think you're worried about what people still think about you just like you did in high school, and that's okay because you're at that point in your life. However, moving past it will be the greatest thing you can do for yourself.
Many people in the future are going to be nicer to you than you could have ever imagined and another piece of advice would be to continue your YouTube channel. You had one going for over two years and then you randomly stopped because of other things you wanted to do. Keep that thing going because if you realize anything in the future it's that time is the biggest asset that you have. The time you could spend on the YouTube channel throughout college will be returned to you more than you could ever imagine.
I know it's hard, but magically one day your heal is going to stop hurting. I know it’s been every day for like 7 months but in February of 2019, it will be all gone and won’t return. When the darkest of times happen from a mental and physical standpoint, just remember that it's going to get better and you're going to have people that'll support you the entire time regardless.
Dear senior year of college Demetri,
You love this new productivity Kool-Aid. You really like Google calendar and Notion and all I can say is KEEP IT UP. Keep exploring what you're exploring but remember that it does take a lot of time to get up to speed with all the different things that exist and you really should be constantly learning.
My biggest advice to you is to read actual books. Don't, don't get caught up in just watching YouTube videos or listening to podcasts but instead read books like Atomic Habits by James Clear. I think it would really do you well and help you understand how to build strong habits.
Also actually wake up when your alarm goes off and don't annoy your roommates by having your 5 AM alarm go off a million times. Also when you write your eBook 10 Steps to Saving time and Doing More don't sound so dogmatic. You're not right about everything, buddy.
Dear masters year of college Demetri,
If you have to let go of certain things in your life, let go, but you need to focus on what you can control and not get so caught up in trying to change people's opinions or how they're going to be. That’s the last thing that's going to do you well in life and you're going to be very upset with how your life is going to go if that’s what you mainly focus on.
So be okay with how people are and what they think. Just say what you're feeling and do it because it's the right thing to do not because you want to change their mind.
Dear June 2021 Demetri,
You're going to find a lot of self-help books and you're going to make some new relationships out of college. Please stick it out with everything you are doing. Please do what you did in real life and focus on what you can control constantly. Also do your best to make the best of every day, because you're not going to get any of them back, and moving forward, you need to make sure you're caught up in the right things.
You're going to see a lot of improvement number-wise in the next few months regarding your brand and the YouTube channel but please stay centered and understand you're just trying to bring value to people and that the number on the screen doesn't increase or decrease your value. Be happy with where you are, no matter what the vanity metrics say.
I hope you enjoyed this exercise in self-reflection and do one for yourself.
Have an awesome week!
❤️ My Weekly Favorites
- 🎙️ Cal Newport - The External Pursuit of Craftsmanship - The Tim Ferris Show
- 🎵 PMA (feat. Pale Waves) - All Time Low
✍️ Quote of the Week
"It's OK to have your eggs in one basket as long as you control what happens to that basket." - Elon Musk